*Long Post* What an amazing lesson. This child is just brilliant, her mind is constantly churning ideas, thinking, asking questions and pointing out things to you she is excited about. She wants to share with you all she loves and she wants you to share with her, her love of communication is heartwarming. It’s beautiful. However, in the classroom setting and other areas in her life, focusing is important and yet for her it is hard. Over the years she continues to try; she tries with all her heart.
This lesson, I took a new approach. We left the ring. We left the cones. We left our normal routine. A typical lesson, we choose two things to work on. For her, she always chooses ‘Posture’ and ‘Focus’. I generally let her continue to choose these because she continues to need to work on them. An exercise example would be weaving in and out of a long line of cones. The goal would be to not talk and focus on steering the horse independently until the end, if she accomplished this, she would be able to take a stuffed animal of her choice with her for a ride…which she LOVES. She would try, so hard. Words cannot describe how I saw this child struggling to keep her thoughts and words in. Sometimes she would, but at the end of the cones, the words would just spill out of her mouth as if her thoughts were being collected in there the whole time.
So we left the ring. I stopped the horse and asked her, “Can you feel your thoughts? Where do you feel your words?” She took a minute and tapped her head. I told her, “I know you love to tell me and Mommy everything. But would you like if it were quiet?” She said she didn’t know. I asked if she would let me help her try. She responded “We can try.” We walked down our drive way, lined with shady oak trees, the morning birds still singing. I asked her “Can you close your eyes and count to three?” (We count with each step the horse takes). We progressed to ten. I then asked her to tell me what she heard. “BIRDS!” Eyes flew open and she pointed in the direction. I asked her to again close her eyes and just listen to the birds. After several tries we were back to ten, listening to birds…but I could see her little head searching for the sound with her eyes closed.
I then asked her to listen for her horses hooves. The pony was wearing shoes and made the perfect ‘clip clop’. I said, “In your head, just be happy listening to the birds and Melos feet.” Her eyes were closed and all of the sudden her entire body relaxed. (There were 2 side walkers and leader, so she wasn’t in danger of falling) Her neck relaxed, head just tilted and started bobbing to the beat of the horses with the natural rhythm of his stride. I signaled to everyone to not make a peep. She stayed in this rhythmic meditative state for almost 15 minutes. When the birds sang, she grinned, took deep breaths and for once…the child was at peace. I looked back at her mother who follows behind the pony and tears were streaming down her face.
When let her stay in this state back to the barn and when I told her she could open her eyes, I asked very quietly “How do you feel?” she whispered slowly “I am so happy Ms Brittany”. I gently pulled her off the horses back and placed her at Melos side, she always hugs him quickly before running off. This time when I placed her by his side, she placed her hands between her face and his belly and just breathed in unison with him.
The power that nature has can never be underestimated. She didn’t need more structure to help her focus. It was too forceful. She needed guidance letting go, and the beat of Melos hooves seemed to match her heart that day.
Her mother texted a couple days later a photo of her standing out in the driveway, hands by her side, eyes closed and head tilted back. The text read: “She’s listening to the birds.”